Summer is here in full force in the midwest, with the heat and humidity sweltering. But there were several nights that were cool this spring, and occasionally there is an evening that is a tolerable hot with a slight breeze, so we can enjoy sitting on the back porch. With our smokeless fire pit, a favorite drink choice, party lights, and endless good conversation, my hubby and I can spend hours talking on the back porch. In fact, we did last night. You may have seen a few snippets of our evening if you follow me on Instagram.

We have great conversation about work, current events, our wish list of things we would love to buy, or things going on in our lives, these talks are where we connect. Where we do some deep communicating. We always say every time we sit on the back porch, “why don’t we do this more? It’s like when we are camping.”.

Communication with a significant other, or just with yourself through journalling or meditation or just sitting with your thoughts, is very important to any relationship. Whether that relationship is with someone else, or with yourself, it is vital to communicate. Even when it’s hard or uncomfortable to communicate, it matters.

Sometimes in life, we may drift away from people, friends, and sometimes even family. Communication prevents the drift. It prevents the eventual cutoff or end to a relationship. It is the lifeline, the blood flow, of keeping a relationship alive.

Now, I know we all have had friends and influences in life that were not good influences on us. That peer pressured us into doing bad things. In those instances, a cutting of the cord might be necessary so you don’t go down a bad path. But relationships that you know are good for you, deserve a little TLC and time, in order to keep that relationship in good standing. We all need someone to talk to. Someone to spend a little time with, to have fun with, to laugh with, to cry with. No one is usually exempt. Some just may not need as much socialization as others.

I tend to fall in the category of not needing as much these days. Not because I don’t like anyone, but I have become more introverted over the past 6 years. Life events altered my reality in significant ways, and I had to relearn how to exist in this world with a big void in my heart. I changed many things, including how much I communicated with others, and how I communicated with them. My friends changed, because you find out who your friends are when you are going through a crisis. At the time, it was devastating. Now that I am on the other side of it the best I can be, every day gets a little easier. I will never be fully over it. Maybe one day I will share, but for now, I wish to not go into details. Just know that every one has something they are going through, and we need to be gentle. Some may be going through something and you don’t even know.

Well, I didn’t mean to get off on that tangent. Sorry! LOL. So sharing some good conversation with someone close is important to your well-being, and theirs. Our evening back porch sitting and conversation is some of our favorite times.

Thanks for reading. Where do you go to have some good conversation?